Your home is supposed to be the place you find Peace. It should not be the place you’re afraid to come to or excited to leave. When your home feels like a jail it’s only natural you want to break out. Hold up for a second before you start punching the walls and cussing people out.
Usually when a home feels like this it’s because order was either never established or order hasn’t been enforced. There is a reason why there are rules on your job… in public places… at church… in your city. Rules keep order. When the rules are broken there are consequences.
This may sound ‘churchy’ but we have found it to work. Have family meetings regularly to address issues. We do it and everybody gets to air out and vent. Make family prayer a rule. If God is the principle head of your family it becomes much easier to keep structure in your home.
You’ve got to re-establish order in your home. Make rules for living in your home and give everyone who lives there an advance warning of the consequences for breaching your rules. Don’t be afraid to enforce your rules even if it hurts your heart to do so.
My dad made a rule when I was in High School. He said, “If you’re not in by midnight you will sleep outside.” I made it home about 12:05 and all the chains were on the doors. I could hear my parents arguing inside because my mom hated locking her son outside. However, I knew the rules and I broke them. I ended up sleeping in a chair on the carport.
I never came home after midnight again.
If you need space, get a ‘Do Not Disturb’ sign like they have in the hotels. Tell your kids not to knock on your door when that sign is up unless someone is dying or the house is on fire! Don’t ask for space. Make your space.
Don’t allow your spouse, your kids, or anyone staying in your house to make you feel like a guest in your own home. If you pay the bills then you set the order.
But if you refuse to serve the LORD, then choose today whom you will serve. Would you prefer the gods your ancestors served beyond the Euphrates? Or will it be the gods of the Amorites in whose land you now live? But as for me and my family, we will serve the LORD .”