When you first meet someone you are introduced to who they are trying to be. As time goes by you meet who they really are.
There is a hunger in all of us to be received by others. We have to give each other credit for at least trying. However, trying to be better is not an activity you can turn on and off. It’s not a light switch. If becoming better doesn’t start in the heart it won’t last long outside the body. People are good at perpetrating to get what they want from you.
Flaws are visible to yourself before they are visible to others. The first thing we do when we wake up is clean up our flaws. Ladies put on make-up to make themselves presentable. Men groom themselves for the same reason. While there is nothing wrong with grooming, it might be important to recognize it’s an activity that is subliminally infiltrated in every part of our lives. We want to appear perfect so much that we actually start believing it. But, when an intolerable or unexpected circumstance occurs we immediately forget to continue playing perfect and our true colors come out.
Truth is, our true colors are always right where we left them. If you’re evil in your heart, you’ve been evil all along, no matter how you’ve been dressing yourself up. If you’re racist in the heart, you’ve been racist all along, no matter how you’ve been pretending around others. If you’re a snake in the heart, you’ve been a snake. If you’re a cheater, you’ve been intending to cheat all along. If you’re a liar, you probably can’t stop doing it. Maybe you’ve fooled others but you certainly haven’t fooled yourself. All it takes is the right unexpected event and who you really are begins shining it’s way through like a prism.
When people show you who they are believe them. I’d like to believe I’m a King but the only throne I really control is the lazy-boy chair in my living room. People will believe their own fantasy so much that they won’t even recognize how counterfeit they truly are. It’s very easy to be true. Accepting who you are and where you are in life doesn’t mean you are accepting defeat. It doesn’t mean you can’t evolve. But, it is where you are at the moment. Own it and work harder to improve your life. As your life improves, so will your attitude about your life.
Fakeness is the most popular make-up in the world. It comes in all colors and shades. It also comes with consequences.
Soon or later your real self will step up to the plate. Don’t expect the world to have mercy on you when you’ve been powering yourself up off the illusions you’ve used to misguide others. People don’t mind you being evil as long as you take pride in the evil Kool-Aid you drink. Don’t be evil in the heart while pretending to care. At some point you will have to really care and people will expect that compassionate nature from you. Then, they’ll find out you never really possessed it.
There is no sense in becoming bitter when find out who people really are. God saw you expecting too much from someone who is still under construction. For your own good, God exposed them to you so you don’t have to waste any of your time believing in someone who is incapable of reciprocating the love you extend to others.
Luke 12:2 The time is coming when everything that is covered up will be revealed, and all that is secret will be made known to all.